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Becoming Isolated and Frenemies.

 Its been said that I am isolating myself because I have quit YouTube and Facebook. Not at all! I still have my messenger open and I have invited people who want to stay in touch to contact me that way and we can meet face to face. I am doing far more socially now than I was on social media. 

I am getting to know people in the flesh rather than through a YouTube comment or Facebook meme. Personally meeting people in the real world takes a lot of energy but I am finding it worth it. We are going to more Home Education meet ups and even trips to the Library are cherished because there is always people to meet and talk to.

In fact it was because of social media I stayed indoors more and didn't talk to anyone. I could just catch up on Facebook should I need to get in touch. Not having social media means I get out in real life and talk to people in the flesh.

Frenemies. Friends that are enemies. 

Watch out for those that smile to your face yet would not hesitate to stab you in the chest. The ones who listen to you patiently but in their heads they are rejoicing over your negative situations and problems. The ones that do you down and belittle your achievements. The ones who would drop you as soon as someone better comes along. These are called frenemies. Friends that are enemies. I have had a few in my life, and most of them left after they saw that no matter what happens to me I always bounce back.

 They got fed up of me bouncing back as they wanted me to stay in a state of distress and lost hope. However what they fail/failed to realise is that I am a child of God. God looks after His own. God is a God of hope and light. There darkness cannot hold out when it comes to God's light. With frenemies who lie and steal your joy, they will eventually fade away. They cant stand being in your light so they gradually look for other victims. 

You need not do anything, God will fight for you. Its only a matter of time before you are wise to what a frenemie looks like and you will avoid them in the first place. Never allow yourself to be put down by these people. They feed off your fear and heartache in life and secretly are happy that you are going through a rough time. They always make comments that are designed for you to think the worst. They never have anything positive to say.

I have been there with a frenemie before, she didn't come to visit me in hospital when I was looking for friends to help me out. This is what alerted me to this fact. To this day I have never spoken to her since.

Frenemies, pray for them. They need prayer more than anything. They wont be told and you cant change them because the attitude is wired in. Choose people in your circles who are wise and humble. Ones who follow your beliefs and views. Ones who will pray for you and hold you up. Frenemies are everywhere, church, social media, communities, groups. You don't need to be paranoid about them, just be guarded. Whole armour of God keeps you in check. Ask God to send you people who care and are helpful. Pray daily for your friends, just because one of them is going through a rough patch doesn't make them a frenemie. 

By their fruits you will know them.



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